CREDENTIALS

ITEC massage qualification from Sussex University, 15 years Reiki practice and 12 years tantric expansion, aware and experienced in various models including, Transactional Analysis, NLP, Psychosynthesis, Freud and others… I have been in the therapy arena since I was 4 (thank my parents) so I became wizard of brain mapping VERY young.

I am an award winning screen writer, I have written films, produced and delivered plays, written books of poetry and prose and I am the only person in UK history to give testimony in rhyming couples in a court room. Due to a crack in the system the judge had to allow the poem, as it had already been recorded into legal evidence as a prepared statement, straight out of my jail cell.

My father was a teacher at Eton College for 40 years before he retired. I didn’t go there. I’m proud to say I have a good mix of private and state education and I found value in both.

These may not be the kind of credentials you’re looking for but they are the ones I’m proud of that speak to how well I’m going to be able to handle you. And how much you’re probably going to enjoy it.

BACKGROUND

T.R.O.J.A.N Horse technology first found it's feet in tantric massage, predominantly for gay men wrestling with drug/sex addiction, insecurity issues, body shame, internalised homophobia etc.) The results were incredible and, 10 years ago, in London, the service was really needed.

But over the first 2 years, I found that I was speaking to clients more and more on the phone between the massage sessions. So often, a massage would bring up deep emotional memory or trauma, and the client would reach out, asking if I could help them process these things, which, of course, I could. I would invite the client to take on ‘homework’ between sessions; often a specific film to watch, or an exercise for the mind, or sometimes a journal entry or gardening exercise… at some point the homework and the conversation became AS important as the tantric massage itself.

Things developed and then several years ago someone reached out from Australia asking just for the conversation and homework… and T.R.O.J.A.N Horse conversational coaching was born…

I still do the occasional tantric massage for both men and women who want to meet their sensual edges without shame… but the call for such a service has lessened over the last 10 years… elections, Covid, lockdowns, war, doubling prices. However, surrendering, naked to the hands and body of a practitioner who can work shame out of your system and your soul though a combination of spiritual practices, conversations and sexual-energy conversion-tools… well… honestly… I don’t know anyone else who does what I do.

So although the service is no longer obviously available, it doesn’t mean it’s not available if this is calls to you with the roar of the Lion. So, if you’re a gay, bisexual or bicurious man, or a straight woman who has trust issues with men, there are many things we will discuss and possibly do together behind THIS closed door involving Tantra; Reiki; Oil: Just Ask Nicely.

When you go through the door, it will open a new tab so you can find your way back here most easily should it not be the path for you.


It has long been known that the human heart, when treated with respect by its custodian, is capable of generating unfathomable amounts of 'unconditional love' which is (as quantum physics has recently discovered) the very life blood of the Universe and everything in it.  Otherwise referred to as 'source energy' this inexhaustible force seems scarce on the Earth in these complex times…

WHAT SORT OF FISH ARE YOU?

If you were a fish that had been born in (and always lived in) the ocean, what would you think of water practically? Would you think of it at all? Would you even be able to see it? You wouldn’t know what I was banging on about. You’d think me a mad fish. But if I was a flying fish and had, at moments, left the whole world of ‘under water’ behind to see it from above and realise we are constantly swimming in an ocean of it…. you would think me an expert on water, even if it was invisible to you.

Enlightened people feel that way about the empty space all around them… it’s filled with an invisible substance that is constantly giving life its form, allowing distinctions to be made between things, and it never asks to be thanked or even noticed.

What if, on the Earth plane, we have been born into LOVE in the same way that fish are born into water? It’s all around us, it give us life, allows us to explore anything and everything, and breathe?

The remarkable thing about the flying fish (as far as this concept is concerned) is that once it has seen the ocean from above, it knows that water exists to support all ocean life like an invisible force of love and light, of depth and darkness that is here to serve us constantly without asking for gratitude or thanks. It doesn’t need acknowledgement in order to do it’s job. And for a fish to know all these things while swimming around in the ocean . . . this is the fish equivalent of self actualisation as a human being; to be in a state of essentially constant gratitude and awareness for the invisible constant miracle that keeps us going, day and night, from birth to death for longer than the past and the future combined.

What if WE are surrounded by unconditional love, just like fish are surrounded by water, invisible to most of us, but always there and ready to be tapped into by anyone who is willing to surrender to the simple elegant truth of life.

When we remember to simply open our mouths and breathe, we remember that oxygen is literally all around us.  The same is true of unconditional Love or 'source energy'.  And T.R.O.J.A.N Horse offers practical tools to harness and redirect your energy towards your higher purpose and hidden truth, whatever that may be. 

Re-membering how to 'make love' outside of all sexual situations has rarely been such an engaging process… Most have forgotten that lovemaking is an ART that extends well beyond fornication. Love making is an attitude. Not an activity. And in this way, T.R.O.J.A.N Horse can teach you how to make love in the things that you say and the things that you think; the way you engage with your daily tasks; the way you handle difficult people, especially those you love…

Whoever said that the path to rediscovering inner peace couldn't be both sexy and spiritually rewarding at the same time? Even though this is just conversation, my background experience in all the therapies, tantra, addiction, homosexuality… all these things mean the conversation is often fun and sexy even though we are not being sexy with each other… it’s more about the content being sexy than the intent being sexy.

BEST PRACTICE

Honouring best practice for a session with T.R.O.J.A.N Horse, there are 2 guidelines it is sensible to follow.  Please note these are guidelines not rules.

  • Don't eat a big meal before a session: if your body is trying to digest a large meal, you will end up starting to fall asleep as soon as you connect with my voice.

  • Alcohol is a toxin.  If you need to be drunk or drinking to talk to me… I probably won’t be able to work with you.

ETIQUETTE

If you come to my home in Devon, I will welcome you in a calm and pleasant manner, offer you a glass of water and engage you in consultation in such a mild style that it will feel like general conversation.

What happens during a session stays between the four walls of the room we are in.  Any personal data that you may disclose to me is your private and intellectual property and will remain so in perpetuity.

If our sessions are over the phone, which for most people is the way this goes, the same rules apply. My job is to put you at your ease as quickly and effortlessly as possible, and from there we can discuss all the things you came with, that you want help looking at.